Through our modern child-rearing practices, our nation is creating, condoning, and championing bizarre behavior. Too many psychological, criminal, and educational experts are supporting tactics that have long-term negative results on the mental health of the youngsters of our nation. Our child-rearing practices must return to setting rational limits and enforcing necessary consequences.
When an elementary-age child wants to act like a dog or a cat, some schools are accommodating them by providing sandboxes in the bathrooms. This playing along with a child’s absurd fantasy only prolongs this game for weird attention or helps the children convince themselves that they can be an animal. Either way, it does nothing to put them back onto the road to mental health.
Instead of placing the child with a mental health expert or clinic for intensive treatment, which was a normal procedure in the recent past, too many clinicians are placating and confusing the child by accepting insane thoughts or behaviors instead of preventing them. This philosophy of giving a person the freedom to solve their own problems is a reaction against formerly sending a person to a therapist or a clinic. These clients possess more radical behavior and thoughts that worsen rather than improve the child’s overall behavior.
Our society is being turned upside-down, “creating, condoning, and championing” behavior and ideals that were once considered hazardous to parenting and mental health. We have completely reversed traditional thinking and replaced it with ideas that do not work.
In past decades, we completely altered the concept that a child was born either as a boy or a girl. Today, there are LGBTQ+ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transexual, Omnisexual, Cisgender, Demisexual, etc. and the partial list keeps on growing. The problem with this expanding list of gender confusion is it allows youngsters with these confused distinctions to become more neurotic or even switch their gender, which adds more confusion and mental anguish, thus increasing insane, acting-out behavior.
Arresting juveniles who act out and sending them to a lockup facility for treatment was usually a place where they learned better techniques to do more sophisticated criminal acts and outrageous behavior. Incredibly, the answer to juvenile mental health or criminality became the same permissive approach: do not arrest them. Let them learn from watching other mentally disturbed individuals or criminals getting themselves into more serious mental health or legal situations. Unfortunately, this does not help but only creates an avalanche of crime and mental health issues.
The permissive approach to juvenile and adult crime can be witnessed almost every night on the news. A Las Vegas gang of 15 black students beat a white boy to death at school. Two weeks later, random customers shopping in a big box store wrecked the store while stealing merchandise. Presently, there are no consequences to the anonymous robbers while employees who attempt to stop them have been fired from their job and have ridiculously been punished for stopping the vandals. Of course, this is entirely upside-down.
There are schools pandering to children with obvious mental health issues who may be physically acting out. They have allowed tight clothing, short shorts, revealing tops for girls and tight pants for boys. The relaxed dress code might be loosely interpreted in some areas but is very permissive in others. Even extreme sexualized behavior is overlooked by the authorities.
An example is an adolescent male who identifies as a female and is allowed to shower in the girl’s locker room even though he possesses male sexual organs. Permissiveness produces the same results and only aggravates and increases inappropriate behavior.
Instead of teaching students traditional standards of behavior and dress, students are teaching each other modern, “anything goes” standards. Permissiveness is undermining our values one-by-one. The students are the teachers, while the most popular teachers in the student’s minds are the cool, anything goes teachers. These include teachers who cover their rooms with rainbow flags and do not report sexual activities going on in the back of the room.
This breakdown of what is right and wrong is ushering in a crumbling society of deviant, lawless, and insane, bizarre behavior. The low standards have glorified an upheaval that will terminate in chaos and the fall of society unless we stop it.
Our nation has to move from permissiveness back to enforcing standards of traditional, positive behavior. The Three Cs: creating, condoning, and championing deviant behaviors leads directly to destructive acts, mental instability, or even, in some cases, insanity.
Teachers, police, and especially parents must do their job in setting limits and enforcing the consequences of their position to assist the development of happy and productive individuals and great future leaders.
Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.